3個聰明的舉動讓你戰勝消耗精力的朋友

'Have you ever spent time with someone and felt completely exhausted afterward? These people are sometimes called energy vampires. They are not real vampires, but they can drain your energy and make you feel unhappy. Energy vampires are friends who always talk about themselves, complain a lot, and do not show much interest in your life. They might give you backhanded compliments or make you feel like you have to be cheerful all the time, even when you are not. Psychologist Suzy Reading explains that energy vampires often need a lot of attention and reassurance. They slowly make you feel worse by not letting you express your true feelings. Author Radhika Sanghani says that the way you feel after spending time with these people is a big clue. If you leave feeling tired and upset, it is probably because of their behavior, not yours.

If you think you have an energy vampire in your life, there are three main ways to handle the situation. The first way is to be honest and tell them how you feel. Many people do not realize how their actions affect others. It might be uncomfortable, but having a direct conversation can help. You could say something like, 'When we spend time together, I do not feel like there is much space for me. I do not feel heard or asked about my life. ' If your friend listens and tries to understand, they care about you. If they get defensive or deny what you are saying, it might mean they are not a true friend.

The second way is to set clear boundaries. If your friend does not want to change and you cannot avoid them, you need to protect yourself. You can limit the time you spend with them or set rules for your interactions. For example, you could say, 'Let us not send endless messages,' or 'Let us not talk about our emotional lives all the time. ' Changing your activities together can also help. Instead of always meeting for coffee and talking, you could go for a walk or exercise together. This can make your time together more balanced and less draining.

The third way is to be ready to end the friendship if necessary. Pay attention to how you feel after seeing your friend. Ask yourself if you feel better, the same, or worse. If you always feel drained, it might be time to limit your time with them or even stop seeing them altogether. Trust your own judgment and do what is best for your well-being. Sometimes, ending a friendship is the healthiest choice. Remember, good friends make you feel supported and happy, not tired and upset. '